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Every day, we are faced with a multitude of decisions. Some are subconscious decisions (Looking left or right, or lifting your foot to climb the stairs) while others use your thought process to make the correct decision (Choosing a video or what to cook for dinner) Believe it or not, it takes your bodys energy to make a decision.

There are times when we can be bombarded with decisions. Whether it is at work or in our personal lives the decisions that are made can have a great impact on the way we live. When you make what seems like a million decisions all at once, it can make you be very draining.

It is important that you are clear headed before you make any decisions. When you make decisions in haste or without thinking about the outcome or what the repercussion could be, you could be setting yourself up for more trouble.

Decide How You Decide

According to experts in the field of teaching executive through the decision making process, there are four different types of decision-making people.

A commander is classified as a person who is not patient. Being a commander can results in decisions that are made in haste and often foolish decisions.

Convincers are classified as people who act on their emotion. They decide on what feels good sort of like a gut instinct. They tend to be persuaded into making decisions; sometimes they are not in their best interests.

People who make decisions that are based on their concern for others feeling are classified as being carers, and as such, they tend to take a long time to make their decisions taking into consideration the feelings of all involved.

A person who needs to have all information, no matter how long it takes to collect is considered a calculator. This type of person usually takes an unusually amount of time to make their decision because the information that they request cannot be collected completely.

It is recommended that you make any of your decisions carefully. Take a step back and consider how others will view your decision and take the necessary steps to make the correct decisions.

There are several things that you need to take into consideration before making potentially life-changing decisions. There are rules that apply to all of the decision-making types.

Anyone can tell you that in order to make the correct decision you need to have as much information as possible. It is also important to ask as many questions as it takes for you to be comfortable in making that decision. When you think that you can make an informed take a moment to analyze the information and try to find anything that can be misconstrued or can backfire on you in the future.

Another problem that is common among decision makers is that they have an either-or-attitude. With this type of attitude, your options a limited. Usually, there is a vast array of answers to be found.

Another common problem is that we tend to make many decisions with an either-or attitude. This limits our options when, in reality, there are usually more answers facing us. It is important to use common sense when you make your decisions. You know right from wrong from the values that you have, use this when you make your decisions.

You waste a lot of energy when you try to work through the decision making process without having the right information. However, if you keep your mind on what is important you will find that it is much easier to make the important decisions.

Keeping notes, whether it is mental or on paper, will assist you in becoming more organized.

Posted by Leon Edward at 08:08 PM | Permalink

There are two major places that the average persons daily stress comes from, work and home. But of the two work seems to be the biggest stressor. Since most people have to work for a living the time constraints and monotonous day in, day out schedule seems to be the number one complaint, followed by, an obnoxious boss, work load and the tedious gossiping co-workers.

This article is for those feeling stress from the work place. Stress at work can be managed. Do not feel as though there is nothing that can be done about it. The pressures of working to support ourselves or family are real. What you need to do is realize stress is inevitable and learn some tricks on how to deal with it.
Here are a few that may help when you feel overwhelmed at work and feel your stress level rising:

1. Take a break:

Get up and leave the office. Go to a quite place where you can clam down and regroup, do not bring a cell phone or an equipment that may disturb your serenity. Take a little walk. A change in atmosphere some time will help refresh your mind.

2. Talk it out:

When someone has pushed you to your limit, walk away. Ask a friend if they have some time to hear you vent and help you deal with your anxiety over the situation. Talking for about 20 minutes helps you calm down and keeps you from saying or doing things that would just make the situation worse.

3. Stretch:

Take a few minutes and do some breathing and stretching exercises. It does have to be intensive just enough to get your head cleared and blood pumping a bit. A little exercise will help elevate your mood.

4. Eat and Drink:
Take a break and enjoy a nutritious snack. A calorie-laden donut will just make you sluggish; try a bran muffin. Have a nice relaxing cup of tea. This should help give you enough energy to sustain you the rest of the day.

5. Laugh:

Laughter lowers blood pressure, brings in more oxygen to your body, and relaxes tense muscles. Try calling a friend with a good sense of humor when you fell like you are losing it. Learn some good, non-offensive jokes for you and you office workers, humor is a great way to unwind and relax. Learn to laugh at everyday situations; it can turn a tiring day at work into an enjoyable day.

Posted by Leon Edward at 08:12 PM | Permalink

When you ask people where most of their daily stress comes from, majority will tell you that it either comes from their home or from work, with greater emphasis on the latter. Because work is a paid endeavor, and the time alloted for it is regular and measured, a lot of people say the routine is what bothers them – in addition to the gnarly boss, the file pile-ups, and the gossip-mongering co-workers.

If you feel you are suffering from occupational stress, then this is the article for you. Sure, stress from work is inevitable, because all of us do need to work to earn a living and support ourselves and our families. But just because it's inevitable doesn't mean we should just raise our arms in defeat and succumb to its every whim. Work stress can be managed. All you need to have to start with is a cool head.

Next time you feel like you're on the edge at the office, here are a few tips you can try.

1. Take a break.

Leave the office, take a short walk or visit a quiet nook in your office building or a nearby café. Claiming some "me" time helps clear and refresh your mind; so will a change of atmosphere.

2. Talk it over.

Before you snap back at a co-worker, bite your tongue. Pull a close friend at the office, ask if he or she has the time, and ask for help in processing your anger or anxious feelings. Expressing yourself to a confidant for at least 20 minutes helps you simmer down and prevents you from acting or saying things that you might regret later.

3. Stretch.

Exercise can do wonders to one's spirits. It doesn't have to be rigorous. A few minutes of stretching and breathing does the trick.

4. Eat, drink.

Yes, stress eating is the number one cause of weight gain, but there are nutritious foods to calm you and to help you sustain your energy for the rest of the day. Instead of reaching out for a sugar-laden doughnut, get a bran muffin; instead of coffee, have a relaxing tea drink.

5. Laugh!

Humor is an effective way to relieve stress. Laughter relaxes tense muscles, brings in more oxygen into our system, and lowers blood pressure. Next time you want to blow your top, call a friend with a good sense of humor. Developing good jokes – no offensive ones – does wonders for yourself and your officemates, too. Seeing humor in everyday things lightens up an otherwise trying and tiring day at work.

Posted by Leon Edward at 05:07 PM | Permalink

Stress is not necessarily a bad thing. It is a requisite part of growth, stimulation and any compromising situation. Too much of it, it however, can short circuit your system and drive you haywire. If you are constantly under stress, without giving your body time for respite, your body will certainly break down.

 

 

Decision making is one of the primary stressors in life. However, you can’t really live a life without decisions, can’t you? Every day you make choices, and these choices translate into stresses that cannot be avoided. They can only be mitigated or handled appropriately.

 

 

No matter how hard we try, turning decisions into riskless and stressless activities would be an exercise in futility. The best thing we can do is handle the decision making process in a way that that is as healthy as possible. Here are a few things to remember when you have to make a pretty tight decision.

 

 

1. Assess the Situation. Hard decisions entail extra stress primarily because we tend to worry too much about things we cannot control. And worse than that, we sometimes fail to understand what type of situation we are actually in.

    

 

To handle such situations properly, you should carefully and calmly assess the situation before making a choice. If this means that you have to step back, take a few breaths, and relax a bit before plunging back into the action, then do so. You will find that this technique works wonders for the stressed mind.

 

 

1. Unnecessary Worry. As mentioned earlier, we have a tendency to worry about things we cannot control. This is where acceptance and proper mindset come in. While thinking about something only shows that you care, it also releases a flood of emotions that could only cloud your decision making abilities.

    

 

The best thing you have on your side is a rational mind. This is negated if you give in to unnecessary worrying. So it is best if you calmly work on the decision, taking the consequences and risks as objectively as possible.

 

 

1. Be Aware of the Consequences. Every decision has its consequences and its risks. A primary reason for decision making stress is that we tend to be overly optimistic or pessimistic, expecting something to happen and then banking all our hopes on those thoughts.

    

 

It would be better if you instead make a table of risks and rewards for each decision, and accept the outcome of the risks as part of the dangers of the decision making process. Life is like a gambit, you can’t always win, but you can always learn from it.

 

 

1. Take Time Off. As said earlier, stress is a precursor to growth and change. But if you don’t get enough rest in between stressors, you risk your mental and physical health. That is why it is very important for individuals that need to make big decisions – especially those that do so on a regular basis like bosses and managers – to take regular breaks.

    

 

They should take time off to relax, indulge in healthy recreation, and allow their minds and bodies to recuperate from the stress.

 

 

1. Preparation. A lot of unwanted stress could be avoided if only people were a lot more prepared to make their decisions. A little research and study on the nature of the decision would go a long way towards making each decision as sure and as stress-free as possible.

    

 

Conclusion

 

 

While you can’t avoid it, you can at least live with it. Don’t let stress get the better of you. Aim to keep it under control by making smarter decisions and by handling it in the right way.

 

 

 

Posted by Leon Edward at 05:47 PM | Permalink

One of the most common sources of stress is work.

Is your boss always bearing down on you for that upcoming deadline? Is office competition constantly pressuring you to push yourself to the limit every time? Do you often find yourself toiling hard into the night, way past your shift, because of the deadline?

If your answered a resounding 'yes' to these questions, you might want to step back and take a break. Stress is a potential killer but it can be managed at its early stage.

There are two sources of stress: internal and external. In the workplace, stress is induced by job dissatisfaction, conflicts with co-employees or employers, or defects in outputs leading to low production volumes.

When under stress, your tendency is to lash out or blame other people because of your inadequacy to meet the standards set by your office or yourself. This is normal. However, effective stress management teaches you not to let things get to you.

Sure, you can express frustration and even anger over a certain situation, but do not help to dwell on it for a long period. Recognize that negative events are simply challenges that will definitely pass over time.

You can manage stress at work when you shift your perception about what you do. Those who complain that work is taking a toll on their lives are those who view as it as such -- work. The word itself connotes struggle and exertion of effort. Try to see the positive side of your job. It will do wonders in your daily attitude towards it.

Don't live to work. Daily tasks become routines. However, always think that you have complete control on how you can spice up your day. Some examples are listening to different kinds of music during your morning drives, talking short walks during breaks, and taking a different route on your way to the office.

Daily tasks become routines. However, always think that you have complete control on how you can spice up your day. Some examples are listening to different kinds of music during your morning drives, talking short walks during breaks, and taking a different route on your way to the office.

In short, you can manage work stress by injecting something new into your daily schedule. You will be surprised at how a simple phone call to say 'hi' to a friend or an e-mail can do wonders to your mood.

Take note that the best way to manage stress is to relax. Weed out all the negative energy and surround yourself with people and things that will bring out the best in you.

If you have a colleague who constantly complains about his work schedule or his salary, stay away and explore other friendships. This is not to say that you should abandon this person completely. It's just that immersing yourself in a more delightful environment will help you more.

In addition, you might want to cut back on your caffeine intake. If the nature of your work is not stressful, then look at what you are doing to yourself to determine the root cause of the stress. Your body could just be reacting negatively to what you take in that's why you're feeling agitated. Caffeine and spicy foods can do this to your body.

If your computer is hooked up to the Internet, you can try web sites that showcase games relieve stress. Eliminate all your frustrations by creating an online journal or a blog.

There is a multitude of things you can do to manage stress. Leave today's worries behind and deal with them tomorrow. More importantly, do it one at a time.

Posted by Leon Edward at 09:50 PM | Permalink

We all have this favorite expression when it comes to being stressed out, and I wouldn't bother naming all of them since it may also vary in different languages. But when it comes down to it, I think that it is how we work or even relax, for that matter that triggers stress. Ever been stressed even when you're well relaxed and bored? I know I have.

Since Error! Hyperlink reference not valid. is unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress. Here are some of the things that can be done by just remembering it, since life is basically a routine to follow like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. You can do a few of them in a longer span of time, but as they say-- every minute counts.

Managing time

Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress.

To improve your time management:

· Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself.
· Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time.
· Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you.
· Manage your commitments by not over- or undercommitting. Don't commit to what is not important to you.
· Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines.
· Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like.
Build healthy coping strategies

It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.

Lifestyle

Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to:

· Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations.
· Have a sense of purpose in life.
· Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping.
· Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress.
· Get moderate exercise throughout the week.
· Limit your consumption of alcohol.
· Don't smoke.

Social support

Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.

Changing thinking

When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body's stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress.

· Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress.
· Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly.
· Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it.
· Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style.

Even writers like me can get stressed even though we're just using our hands to do the talking, but having to sit for 7 or 8 hours is already stressful enough and have our own way to relieve stress. Whether you're the mail guy, the CEO, or probably the average working parent, stress is one unwanted visitor you would love to boot out of your homes, especially your life.

 

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Posted by Leon Edward at 08:56 PM | Permalink

They say there's more than one way to skin a cat. The same goes when you start tearing your hair out with all the frustration, grief, anxiety, and yes, stress. It's a state of mental conditioning that is like taking that bitter pill down your throat, causing you to lose your sense of self, and worse your sanity. Just thinking about it can drive anyone off the edge.

And they say that the proactive ones are already living off the edge.

As one stressed-out person to another, I know how it feels, and believe me there are many variants when it comes to stress. Coping with life, and carrying the problems that may or may not belong to you can scratch away the little joy and happiness that you can carry once you head out that door. You can't blame them for being like that; they have their own reasons, so much like we have our reasons to allow stress to weigh us down. They say that stress is all in the mind, well, what's bugging you anyway?

There are several ways to manage stress, and eventually remove it out of your life one of these days. So I'll try to divide it into a seven-day course for you and I promise it's not going to be too taxing on the body, as well as on the mind.

1. Acknowledge stress is good
Make stress your friend! Based on the body's natural "fight or flight" response, that burst of energy will enhance your performance at the right moment. I've yet to see a top sportsman totally relaxed before a big competition. Use stress wisely to push yourself that little bit harder when it counts most.

2. Avoid stress sneezers
Stressed people sneeze stress germs indiscriminately and before you know it, you are infected too!

Protect yourself by recognizing stress in others and limiting your contact with them. Or if you've got the inclination, play stress doctor and teach them how to better manage themselves.

3. Learn from the best
When people around are losing their head, who keeps calm? What are they doing differently? What is their attitude? What language do they use? Are they trained and experienced?
Figure it out from afar or sit them down for a chat. Learn from the best stress managers and copy what they do.

4. Practice socially acceptable heavy breathing
This is something I've learned from a gym instructor: You can trick your body into relaxing by using heavy breathing. Breathe in slowly for a count of 7 then breathe out for a count of 11. Repeat the 7-11 breathing until your heart rate slows down, your sweaty palms dry off and things start to feel more normal.

5. Give stressy thoughts the red light
It is possible to tangle yourself up in a stress knot all by yourself. "If this happens, then that might happen and then we're all up the creek!" Most of these things never happen, so why waste all that energy worrying needlessly?

Give stress thought-trains the red light and stop them in their tracks. Okay so it might go wrong - how likely is that, and what can you do to prevent it?

6. Know your trigger points and hot spots
Presentations, interviews, meetings, giving difficult feedback, tight deadlines…. My heart rate is cranking up just writing these down!

Make your own list of stress trigger points or hot spots. Be specific. Is it only presentations to a certain audience that get you worked up? Does one project cause more stress than another? Did you drink too much coffee?

Knowing what causes you stress is powerful information, as you can take action to make it less stressful. Do you need to learn some new skills? Do you need extra resources? Do you need to switch to decaf?

7. Burn the candle at one end
Lack of sleep, poor diet and no exercise wreaks havoc on our body and mind. Kind of obvious, but worth mentioning as it's often ignored as a stress management technique. Listen to your mother and don't burn the candle at both ends!

So having stress can be a total drag, but that should not hinder us to find the inner peace of mind that we have wanted for a long time. In any case, one could always go to the Bahamas and bask under the summer sun.

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Leon Edward

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Posted by Leon Edward at 08:47 PM | Permalink