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How to Deal With Depression

 

Everybody has experienced "I don’t want to get out of bed" feeling. It is normal and ignoring the alarm clock to sleep some more getting a few bites of rich creamy chocolate or any comfort food, or talking with friends usually eases the gloomy feeling. Nevertheless, you should know the thin line between "I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed" from "I wish I never woke up anymore." Watch out for possible signs of depression among friends and yourself, especially if you are experiencing it right now. The following survival tips will surely help you cope with depression.

Cry. Cry if you need to. Cry until you cannot cry no more if it is the only way to lighten up your feelings a little bit. Crying is good since it cleanses the body from stress. Crying is one of the best ways to let go of all the bottled up emotions you have been keeping inside.

Cry if you need to. Cry until you cannot cry no more if it is the only way to lighten up your feelings a little bit. Crying is good since it cleanses the body from stress. Crying is one of the best ways to let go of all the bottled up emotions you have been keeping inside.

Talk to someone. When you feel down down, it is good advise to have someone to listen to all your rants and raves. This is not just because you need advice badly but a set of ears letting you know that someone has time to take notice of your feelings is already enough. Purging out your emotions to a friend, family member or even a psychiatrist serves as a catharsis to unload yourself of your frustrations. Do not be afraid to admit that you are having emotional difficulties; it is not a sign of being abnormal. Rather, it is a sign of acknowledgement and willingness to work on the issue.

When you feel down down, it is good advise to have someone to listen to all your rants and raves. This is not just because you need advice badly but a set of ears letting you know that someone has time to take notice of your feelings is already enough. Purging out your emotions to a friend, family member or even a psychiatrist serves as a catharsis to unload yourself of your frustrations. Do not be afraid to admit that you are having emotional difficulties; it is not a sign of being abnormal. Rather, it is a sign of acknowledgement and willingness to work on the issue.

Keep yourself busy. Keeping yourself busy will draw your attention into something else. Try reading a good book or attending a gym class so you will not think of anything bad to do. Boredom can make people do things they should not do otherwise. As Elle Woods from the movie "Legally Blonde" said, "Exercise gives you endorphins; endorphins make you happy; happy people don’t kill other people." On the other hand, if you have a friend who has a suicidal tendency, never ever leave him alone. If possible, try to contact a psychiatrist for her or inform her guardians or immediate family about his condition.

Keeping yourself busy will draw your attention into something else. Try reading a good book or attending a gym class so you will not think of anything bad to do. Boredom can make people do things they should not do otherwise. As Elle Woods from the movie "Legally Blonde" said, On the other hand, if you have a friend who has a suicidal tendency, never ever leave him alone. If possible, try to contact a psychiatrist for her or inform her guardians or immediate family about his condition.

Rekindle your relationship with Him. Sometimes when you feel that the whole world is against you, making a deep connection with a divine force – God, in whatever language you call Him - will do wonders. You can tell Him everything. If you find confessing to friends and family is not possible, then He is the best bet to seek comfort.

Sometimes when you feel that the whole world is against you, making a deep connection with a divine force – God, in whatever language you call Him - will do wonders. You can tell Him everything. If you find confessing to friends and family is not possible, then He is the best bet to seek comfort.

Realize that there are things beyond your control. You cannot keep bad things from happening but you still have control on how to react to them. Remember, things can get out of hand whether you like it or not. Getting into a mess does not mean that you will not get out of it at all. People do make mistakes but it is not a reason to turn away from the world.

You cannot keep bad things from happening but you still have control on how to react to them. Remember, things can get out of hand whether you like it or not. Getting into a mess does not mean that you will not get out of it at all. People do make mistakes but it is not a reason to turn away from the world.

Smile. Smile those blues away. There is always tomorrow. The future is always full of hope for better things.

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Posted by Leon Edward at 08:50 PM | Permalink

You are awake for three consecutive nights, with eye bags drooping like mad. No matter how hard you try to sleep, you just can’t. You already did everything to wipe out the scenes in you head, but memories just keep coming back. You just can’t believe about what happened. A mixture of emotions stirs your whole being. Anger, hate, depression and self-pity- you don’t know what to feel anymore. Confusion befalls you.

Occasionally, emotion sojourns a person. Emotions are responses to external stimulus such as an insulting word, a malicious act, a startling scene or anything that might induce a particular emotion. Before, it was thought that emotions are rooted in the heart, not in the head. Until recently, studies show that emotions are influenced by brain activities. With the aid of more sophisticated and non-invasive technology, dramatic images of a living human brain reacting to different kinds of emotions can now be captured and analyzed.

Is it possible to control our emotions?

Emotion defeats reason and makes a person vulnerable. Sometimes, emotions can be uncontrollable. It is unlikely to freeze the surge of our feelings after we perceived the cause of emotion, and just proceed to emote later on! However, the fact that emotion is irresistible does not mean that we cannot resist the impulse to do the things that we might regret later on.

How can we manage anger? Intense anger may rob a person out of his self-control. Anger is unhealthy because it is one of the causes of indigestion, cardiac arrest and irregular glandular secretions. Anger strikes like lightning and we cannot actually prevent ourselves from being angry. However, we can control the intensity of anger that we feel and the unintentional actions that might result from it. Control is the primary concern of our brain. You might think of knocking out your opponent, but you can choose not to. The orbital frontal cortex is the brain part in charge for restricting unpremeditated actions while the cingulated cortex helps in conflict resolution.

When a sudden twinge of anger hits you, take a deep breath, calm down and focus. Train your brain to function normally especially when emotions set in.

How can we eliminate the feeling of anxiety and depression? Brain damage may be caused by stroke, accident, and prolonged and uncontrolled negative emotion. Based on studies, persons who suffered from brain dysfunction generally have higher levels of anxiety, depression, and irritability compared to those who did not. Nurturing negative thoughts and emotions for a long time cannot do a person any good as it causes more danger to the brain, body organs, and interpersonal relationship. It is natural for us to feel anxious or depressed, but we must not hold on to this kind of feeling. The amygdala is responsible for eliciting fear and other negative emotions. Drug therapies might be beneficial to discharge ourselves of negative emotions, but the more effective cure is already within us. The brain can solve its own problems.

When you feel that the world is against you, just think of happy thoughts and keep yourself busy. Engage in activities that will improve your knowledge and skills. This way, the brain will be stimulated to produce the substances that will neutralize negative emotions. Get rid of those negative emotions and you will be happier and healthier.

Posted by Leon Edward at 09:24 PM | Permalink

There are large classes of emotions that relate to how we look at and appraise ourselves. One such set of emotions involves feelings of success and failure. When we do something we consider a success, we usually experience positive feelings. If we do something we consider a failure, we may experience negative feelings.

Standards of success

What determines whether something is a success and a failure? Two basic factors are involved: the standard that people set for us and the standard that we set for ourselves.

Usually we feel most successful when our performance reaches other people's expectations or standards as well as our own. Sometimes, however, we set our standards so high that we never can do well enough to feel that we have succeeded, even though others tell us we have done well. Or others may set their expectations of us so high that, although we think we have done well, they feel that we should have done better.

Fortunately, people generally set reasonable goals for themselves with which other people agree. This is why most people feel they can and do succeed.

Related to feelings of success and failure are feelings of pride and shame. We are proud of ourselves when we succeed at things we do, while we may feel varying degrees of shame if we feel we have failed. Did you ever receive a poor grade at school that made you feel so ashamed that you didn't want to tell anyone?

Not only do we feel pride and shame for ourselves; we can feel these emotions for others as well. For example, we may feel pride for a friend if he scores the winning point at a soccer match, while we might feel shame for the same friend if at the last minute he tripped over the ball and lost the game. A common, mild form of shame is embarrassment, and, like shame, we can feel it for ourselves and for others.

If we make a mistake or do something that we feel is morally wrong, or bad, we may feel the emotion of guilt. Guilt is a very unpleasant emotion, one that most people experience as distressing or painful. However, like all emotions, guilt serves as an important function, for it helps to keep us acting and behaving in ways that will be helpful, not harmful, to others.

Can you imagine a world without guilt? Without guilt, people would be more apt to lie, steal, abuse or kill for what they wanted. Guilt is the emotion most related to the religious and moral structure of society.

Just as too little guilt can be a problem, so can too much guilt. Some people feel so bad about themselves that they can never be happy; they feel that everything they do is wrong or worthless. For these people, unfortunately, professional treatment might be necessary.

Love and hate

Our feelings toward other people are often complex. We may love someone and, at the same time, be angry with him. Or we may love someone, even though we are jealous of him. We might even love someone and, at the same time, hate him for some specific reason. Hate is a strong negative emotion toward someone, and is due to anger, jealousy, or some other factor.

Like love, hate can be a very strong emotion. It can also be very dangerous. The question is often asked, "Is it bad to hate?" The best answer to this is probably, "sometimes yes and sometimes no". Usually, hate does not help us; it makes us feel unhappy and makes us do things that may hurt others. However, sometimes it may be necessary to hate and hurt someone in order to protect loved ones.

Posted by Leon Edward at 08:47 PM | Permalink

How does a person become the emotionally complex person he is? What are the origins of his daily frustrations, his morbid fears, his feelings of love? Is a person born with all his emotions or are they learned? Or do the emotions develop both through maturation and learning?

Research has shown that the emotions do develop and mature from infancy through adulthood, partly as a function of the growth and development of the central and autonomic nervous systems. Some emotional responses are inborn, although they may not appear until the child has reached a certain stage of growth.

However, research also shows that many emotional responses are learned through experience. In view of the complex nature of our emotions, it is not surprising that their development should be equally complex.

A newborn baby is a helpless, undeveloped organism that does little more than drink milk, move around a bit, cry when hungry or uncomfortable, and sleep. However, if you startle a baby by sounding a bell or flashing a light, you may cause the baby to cry. The young infant does react to pain, discomfort, or startling stimuli, but his or her reactions are of a very global, uncontrolled nature. We might say that his or her emotional life simply consists of degrees of comfort and discomfort.

As the baby grows and develops, he or she learns to interact with people and things in his or her environment, and his or her emotional responses begin to increase in number. By the age of five months, a baby may show signs of both pleasant and unpleasant emotions, including distress and even anger. Delight may clearly be present by the third month, while most signs of love and affection may not until the baby is 10 or 11 months old.

In the same way that a child must be able to move his or her arms and legs before he or she can learn to walk, the child must physiologically be capable of producing and experiencing particular emotions before these can be modified through learning.

Classical conditioning

Psychologists have found that there are two basic processes by which learning takes place. One kind of learning is called classical conditioning. This occurs when one event or stimulus is consistently paired with, or followed by, a reward or punishment. It is through classical conditioning that a child learns to associate his or her mother's face and voice with happiness and love, for he or she learns that this person provides food and comfort.

Negative emotions are learned in a similar fashion. If a child is bitten or startled several times by a dog, he or she may learn to associate furry animals with pain or startle and, thus, developa fear of them.

Operant conditioning

The second kind of learning is called operant conditioning. This occurs when an individual learns to do things that produce rewards in his or her environment and learns not to do things that produce punishments. For example, if a mother always attends to her baby when he cries and cuddles him until he is quiet, she may teach the baby that if he or she cries he or she will get attention from the mother. Thus, the baby will learn to increase crying in order to have the mother more.

Every day, we grow and have new experiences. We constantly learn by reading, watching television, interacting with other people, and so forth. This learning affects our emotions. If a person is nice to use, cares about us, and tries to do positive things for us, we learn through classical conditioning to associate this person with positive feelings. One the other hand, if a person is mean, we associate him or her with negative emotions.

In other words, how we react emotionally depends not only on maturation and learning but on how we feel at that moment. Our emotional responses to various stimuli will vary, depending on what factors influence us at the time.

Posted by Leon Edward at 08:43 PM | Permalink

You are awake for three consecutive nights, with eye bags drooping like mad. No matter how hard you try to sleep, you just can’t. You already did everything to wipe out the scenes in you head, but memories just keep coming back. You just can’t believe about what happened. A mixture of emotions stirs your whole being. Anger, hate, depression and self-pity- you don’t know what to feel anymore. Confusion befalls you.

Occasionally, emotion sojourns a person. Emotions are responses to external stimulus such as an insulting word, a malicious act, a startling scene or anything that might induce a particular emotion. Before, it was thought that emotions are rooted in the heart, not in the head. Until recently, studies show that emotions are influenced by brain activities. With the aid of more sophisticated and non-invasive technology, dramatic images of a living human brain reacting to different kinds of emotions can now be captured and analyzed.

Is it possible to control our emotions?

Emotion defeats reason and makes a person vulnerable. Sometimes, emotions can be uncontrollable. It is unlikely to freeze the surge of our feelings after we perceived the cause of emotion, and just proceed to emote later on! However, the fact that emotion is irresistible does not mean that we cannot resist the impulse to do the things that we might regret later on.

How can we manage anger? Intense anger may rob a person out of his self-control. Anger is unhealthy because it is one of the causes of indigestion, cardiac arrest and irregular glandular secretions. Anger strikes like lightning and we cannot actually prevent ourselves from being angry. However, we can control the intensity of anger that we feel and the unintentional actions that might result from it. Control is the primary concern of our brain. You might think of knocking out your opponent, but you can choose not to. The orbital frontal cortex is the brain part in charge for restricting unpremeditated actions while the cingulated cortex helps in conflict resolution. 
When a sudden twinge of anger hits you, take a deep breath, calm down and focus. Train your brain to function normally especially when emotions set in.
How can we eliminate the feeling of anxiety and depression? Brain damage may be caused by stroke, accident, and prolonged and uncontrolled negative emotion. Based on studies, persons who suffered from brain dysfunction generally have higher levels of anxiety, depression, and irritability compared to those who did not. Nurturing negative thoughts and emotions for a long time cannot do a person any good as it causes more danger to the brain, body organs, and interpersonal relationship. It is natural for us to feel anxious or depressed, but we must not hold on to this kind of feeling. The amygdala is responsible for eliciting fear and other negative emotions. Drug therapies might be beneficial to discharge ourselves of negative emotions, but the more effective cure is already within us. The brain can solve its own problems.
When you feel that the world is against you, just think of happy thoughts and keep yourself busy. Engage in activities that will improve your knowledge and skills. This way, the brain will be stimulated to produce the substances that will neutralize negative emotions. Get rid of those negative emotions and you will be happier and healthier.

Posted by Leon Edward at 05:08 PM | Permalink